1) It's very hard to communicate in writing with someone that you don't already know

2) This is compounded by the fact that you often leave long notes full of all sorts of thoughts and assertions and it's hard to truly address them all thoughtfully and thoroughly.

3) I'm a social scientist who has studied this topic for years. I speak not from personal belief or experience, as you tend to do, but from a grounded understanding of how our social system works and some of the issues that it causes.

4) Nonetheless, you tend to dismiss that out of hand as if I'm just presenting my opinion (as you are) and I find that quite frustrating because it happens so often - but only from men.

Addendum: Telling anyone who has a lifelong of experience of marginalization and discrimination to be less angry is a bid for your comfort at their expense. Sorry, but fuck no! You've done a lot of defending "how men are" and "what men need" and I've simply pointed out to you that this is patriarchy-specific. Pointing out that you are off-base is not an inherently hostile act.

I have nothing against you and the only thing I see as the enemy is the social system that causes so much misery - for women, but also for a lot of men. I've devoted a considerable amount of time and energy in speaking with you, and early on you said you felt that conveyed respect, but because I don't often agree with you, and can back all of that up with mainstream social science which is my area of expertise, now it's a problem? I don't get it...

I do think it's best for us to call it day.

Good luck, take care...