80% of rapes are date rapes, and all women have been sexually harassed and bothered by men since they were little girls. But sure, let's blame women for how they act in response to that rather than taking other men to task and changing the culture.
I don't think that dating dynamics have changed significantly in the past 20-30 years. What's changed is that young men today have no social skills, no game (meaning self confidence and owning what they have to offer) and yet still have massive entitlement to women's time, attention and bodies. They expect women to just somehow fall in their laps perhaps because they know more about porn than they know about actual sexual connections. When that doesn't work out, they blame women rather than their own poor social skills and insistence on treating women like a commodity.
It has nothing to do with considerate men vs thoughtless men. If you don't know that just walking up to a woman on the street because you find her attractive is almost never going to be welcome, then you are the actual problem.
The first thing to understand is that flirting is a two person activity. It’s a dance or a dialogue, not a monologue or something you do to someone else. It’s not a predator chasing down and subduing prey. Both people have to be into it, and saying yes to the dance, and that’s why I think that it’s mostly a very bad idea to try to connect with a woman you don’t know in a public place. There are some exceptions, but even most of those have caveats.
Meet-cutes do happen on the subway, or in the grocery store, but probably not as often as some men tend to believe. Most women who are out and about aren’t looking for love, or even sex — they are just looking to go about their day without being hassled, harassed, or bothered by strangers. Trying to demand their time and attention if they’ve given you no indiction that they are receptive to that is nearly always a huge turn-off and big mistake.
Don’t go looking to meet women in the wild. Women can smell desperation a mile away, and it doesn’t smell good. Plus, most of the time they just want to go about their lives without fending off constant come-ons. There are certain contexts where it’s understood that people are there to mix and mingle, such as a party, a bar, or club. Just because a woman has left the house doesn’t mean she is looking to find a man. If you don’t accept that, it’s creepy.
Check out this video of a woman walking around in NYC for a real-world look at what women are dealing with.
