90% of all violence and all rape is committed by men - against women but also against other men. There is a high rate of violence in lesbian relationships but it's not higher than that of heterosexual ones, where fully one half of all women murdered in America are killed by male domestic partners.

Men, after all, are the primary perpetrators of rape, battering, sexual abuse, and sexual harassment, at least according to those radical feminists over at the FBI. So we can dispense with the idea that it is anti-male to say what everyone already knows to be true. There is an awful lot of violence against women in our society, and men commit the vast majority of it.

Katz, Jackson. The Macho Paradox (pp. 29-30). Sourcebooks. Kindle Edition.

https://mainweb-v.musc.edu/vawprevention/lesbianrx/factsheet.shtml

"Why would a lesbian batter another woman? Lesbians who abuse another women may do so for reasons similar to those that motivate heterosexual male batterers. Lesbians abuse their partners to gain and maintain control (9). Lesbian batterers are motivated to avoid feelings of loss and abandonment. Therefore, many violent incidents occur during threatened separations. Many lesbian batterers grew up in violent households and were physically, sexually, or verbally abused and/or witnessed their mothers being abused by fathers or stepfathers (6,7,14)."

If you actually want to engage in self-improvement and learn about life, you might want to disengage from emotion-laden narratives that make you feel better about yourself and your insecurities and actually interface with facts, data, expert analysis, science, etc. After all, that’s what a strong person would do . . .