A lot of men have "decided" what women want - which is contrary to what actual women overwhelmingly say, both anecdotally and in formal research studies that analyze things like dating profiles and outcomes. It's pretty silly and counter-productive to say nothing of condescending to keep insisting that women don't actually know wha they want in a man - because men know better.

And, clearly most men don't know what they're doing or you'd be out of a job.