Actually, I've been happily married for over 30 years but it sure says a lot about you when mainstream sociological research about what men say they are dealing with threatens and upsets you so deeply. Perhaps you ought to get some therapy. The American Psychological Association has recently issued new guidelines for working with men and boys. Seems like you could probably benefit.

https://www.apa.org/monitor/2019/01/ce-corner

"Thirteen years in the making, they draw on more than 40 years of research showing that traditional masculinity is psychologically harmful and that socializing boys to suppress their emotions causes damage that echoes both inwardly and outwardly.

“Though men benefit from patriarchy, they are also impinged upon by patriarchy,” says Ronald F. Levant, EdD, a professor emeritus of psychology at the University of Akron and co-editor of the APA volume “The Psychology of Men and Masculinities.” Levant was APA president in 2005 when the guideline-drafting process began and was instrumental in securing funding and support to get the process started.

The main thrust of the subsequent research is that traditional masculinity—marked by stoicism, competitiveness, dominance and aggression—is, on the whole, harmful. Men socialized in this way are less likely to engage in healthy behaviors."