Actually, what you are doing here pretty much proves my thesis. You are upset that women are complaining about the ways that they've been hurt by how men are taught to relate to them in this society when what you want and expect is for your own comfort and for your problems to be their focus. I'm hypothesizing based on what you've said that this is what would feel good to you. This is what would feel right. No-one ever told you to think that way in so many words, but constant reinforcement for those beliefs your entire life means that they are deeply embedded in your subconscious so that you aren't even aware that you are doing it.

Anything that distracts from the male-centered culture is seen as aberrant and in need of correction. Sociologist, Allan G. Johnson says, “People often confuse men as individuals with men as a dominant and privileged category of people and that [given the] reality of women’s oppression, male privilege, and men’s enforcement of both, it’s hardly surprising that every woman should have moments where she resents or even hates men.”

And I didn't even say that I hate men. I simply pointed out a pervasive societal dynamic that every woman I know (and every woman you know) has experience with multiple times over. But us women who talk about this stuff are out of line for failing to keep you comfortable and happy by pointing out how a demographic that you are a part of hurts us. This is what misogyny is - the policing arm of patriarchy that seeks to smack down and belittle any woman who fails to adhere to the tacit social contract of a patriarchal society.