Afraid of a man in this culture - because of how men in this culture have been taught to behave. Mosuo women have no inherent fear of men. Neither do Icelandic women. The fact that women in our culture are not consciously parsing out the entire sociological dynamic is completely irrelevant to this discussion.
And, there are ways to have hierarchies of actualization and all sorts of win/win scenarios even in instances where there is no kumbaya singing going on. Just because you can't conceive of something doesn't mean that other people can't or that it isn't already taking place all across American corporations as we speak, as well as military special forces groups. You are the one who is being naive.
The real question here, is why are you SO defensive about all of this? Why are you side-ways trying to justify that men in this culture are socialized in ways that are demonstrably harmful to them, to others, and to society as a whole? Particularly when there are plenty of other places around the world today, right now as we speak, that don't socialize men to act like this - and some of them are even in Western countries.
“In other words, inequality did not spread from group to group because it is an inherently better system for survival, but because it creates demographic instability, which drives migration and conflict and leads to the cultural — or physical — extinction of egalitarian societies.” New Scientist
Despite how ubiquitous they feel to many of us, dominance-based hierarchies aren’t the only type of hierarchies and they aren’t the ones that we’ve had for most of human history. They have little to do with merit and instead are about grabbing and holding onto power through bullying and ruthlessness.
Movements towards hierarchies of actualization are beginning to take hold in the business world, particularly in highly competitive environments, not because they are nicer settings, but because they allow the work to be done more efficiently. Denmark teaches principles of this way of relating to other people in its schools. Students learn to compete primarily against themselves and to help other students who are struggling as a way to improve their own skills. This approach reduces bullying and helps to build a stronger sense of community, but it also teaches the relational skills necessary for successful management and entrepreneurship.
