Again, thanks for telling me all about myself and what I know and don't know. This is is the sort of condescending idiocy generally referred to as Mansplaining. I am polyamorous, and even if I weren't, I am a student of sociology who pursues these topics from an academic perspective. You don't know my age, relationship status, or anything about me, including what I know and do not know, so don't be so arrogant as to imagine that you can speak about those things.
If you wanted to only talk about the OKCupid study, and the fact that I misinterpreted how it was undertaken, you should have stuck to talking about that. I evaluate attractiveness based on a variety of metrics, and I assumed the study did as well. My mistake.
You are the one who went off on the other things that I had brought up - so I then further explained to you why they were relevant to a more general sense of attractiveness. That's on you for pursuing those topics if you believed they were tangential to the OP.
Men do tend to have lower emotional intelligence than women - because that's the way they are socialized. The study from the American Sociological Association that I linked to you talks about this. If you disagree with that assessment, feel free to present something more substantive than your hurt feelings to counter it.
As I linked to you in another place, the Dirtbag trend in dating is in fact a current one, where many men don't bother to shower or otherwise make themselves presentable for dates. The fact that you don't seem to be aware of this dating trend does not erase the fact that it exists.
"As stated by Brian N. Sweeney in “Masculine Status, Sexual Performance, and the Sexual Stigmatization of Women”, the hookup culture follow trends and myths of manhood based on “fraternities often condense these ideas into restrictive meaning systems that validate only narrow expressions of masculinity and sexuality” (Sweeny, 386). Men engage in hookup culture because they get approved and celebrated by their friends. The more you sleep with women, the more you are praised by your friends. This again, justifies men’s authority and toughness over women. Today, men who do not participate in this culture are without doubt pressured to follow these masculine norms. This idea of gender performance and norms displays how hegemonic masculinity is part of the hookup culture."
If you are offended by reality, and the women who speak about it, perhaps you should seek therapy. If you can't parse out the difference between a sociological trend and saying All Men, perhaps you should consider the deep sense of wounding that conveys which has nothing to do with the women who make you so angry.
