An American is sexually assaulted every 68 seconds. It's not rare at all. It’s one of the most common crimes in America and just about every woman you know has some experience with sexual violence — from groping all the way up to rape. The Department of Justice says 1 in every 6 women has been raped or had it attempted, and that's probably understating the problem. The CDC estimates that it’s 1 in every 4. 1 in 16 women had their first sexual experience be "forced" in some way (including drugging, holding down, coercion, etc.) and 39% of college guys admit to researchers that they've pressured or coerced (sometimes with force) women into doing sexual things they didn't want to do - and those are just the ones who admitted it. Rape isn’t taking place because of “miscommunications” — it’s taking place because we live in a culture that not allows but condones the behaviors that underly rape.
Don't be a fucking apologist. It’s disgusting!
You know what would stop rapes? If men stopped acting entitled to women's bodies. There are cultures where rape essentially does not exist - because domination of women isn't considered an intrinsic masculine quality like it is in patriarchies.
In cultures where there is no historical belief in male dominance, or coercion and violence as a demonstration of masculinity, rape is nearly unheard of. In fact, in at least some of these cultures, rape is seen as shamefully unmasculine behavior. The Minangkabau of Indonesia, the world’s largest matrilineal culture, is a place where men move into their wives' homes after marriage. It is also a place where rape is largely unknown, in part because it is considered unmanly. For several societies, it is reported that rape is not only rare but also seen as a shameful act which puts a man’s virility and his very humanity in question.
Among the Apache (Farrer, 1999), “Until very recent times, no proper male person would rape a female person (local or enemy), because the rapist lost face not being ‘man enough’ to get a woman on his own.” “An Apache man suffers enormous status loss by forcing himself sexually on anyone: ‘He does not even deserve to be called a man, a human being’” (Farrer, 1997, p. 242).
Educate yourself FFS, you sound like a Neanderthal.
My review and analysis draw especially on research and theory that highlight the connections between sexual violence and normative (rather than strictly aberrant or toxic) heterosexuality and masculinity (e.g., Cahill, 2014, 2016; Gavey, 2005; Mardorossian, 2014). This work contends that there is a common ground between normative heterosexuality and sexual violence (what Cahill, 2016 refers to as the “heteronormative sexual continuum”) — not that they are one and the same but that hegemonic heterosexuality functions to obscure clear “distinctions between what is [sexual violence] and what is just sex” (Gavey 2005: 2, emphasis original). In other words, as I and others have demonstrated elsewhere, Western hegemonic heterosexuality is often male-centered and patterned in ways that can support and obscure men’s sexual violence against women. (Sage Journals)
When Amber Wyatt was raped 12 years ago, she immediately went and told fellow party-goers and the police. Her physical exam showed trauma consistent to rape and she had the semen of one of her attackers in her body. But despite all of that, her community, from law enforcement to fellow students and parents, actually turned on her, rather than bringing her attackers to justice.
When interviewed for the Amber Wyatt story, former Fort Worth Police Department sergeant, Cheryl Johnson, said it was common practice to not pursue cases or for grand juries not to indict, despite strong evidence of a crime.
“We had cases where there were photographs and confessions from the suspects that were no-billed,” Johnson told me in 2015 in the tidy living room of her Fort Worth home. One case in particular stuck with her: A man admitted to giving a woman drugs that would render her unconscious — and then raping her after she had passed out and photographing the act. The victim was sent the photographs of her own rape, which she turned over to police. Still, the grand jury decided not to indict.
Edit: Here are some more facts for you:
It’s a sobering fact that sexual assault is one of the most prevalent crimes committed in American society. While work has been done in our culture to empower victims, the statistics of sexual assault don’t lie. We must hold perpetrators accountable and remove the stigma around reporting an assault to see real progress on the issue.
According to RAINN (the Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network), an American is sexually assaulted every 68 seconds. This means that over half a million people are raped or victims of sexual assault every year. To say there is a sexual assault crisis in our society may be a dramatic understatement, especially given that approximately 63% of sexual assaults go unreported.
