And one of the ways that we know this is true is that in a swinger's club where women intentionally wear very sexy attire, nobody thinks that is an invitation to anything. It's recognized as a woman simply expressing her sexuality, which might even be simply for herself and no-one else. If men in swinger's clubs are able to "contain their urges" and don't feel entitled to women's bodies then other men out and about in the regular world can do the same.