And, that is so not the norm for women or for women in casual sex situations - where it's unlikely that she will have even one orgasm. The orgasm gap is real - in committed relationships, but in casual sex, it skyrockets.
“I haven’t hooked up with anybody who was so cavalier as to just, like, not even care,” college student Vanessa Martini told the Times. “But I think most of them were somewhat baffled that it would require more than just them thrusting.”
Martini goes on to say that she was never taught how to communicate during sex so that both partners can experience pleasure, a knowledge gap made worse by many mainstream representations of unrealistic sex and cultural stigma that shames women for wanting it. “The way we view sex in porn and in movies and in books, people aren’t talking to each other like, ‘Oh, my foot’s falling asleep, we need to move,’” she said.
