And the person who was showing compassion for you still asked you to take responsibility for yourself, right? If that person had stopped at the empathy part, you'd probably still be using... This entire piece of mine was essentially telling incels (and the society that coddles them) that this needs to stop. I honestly understand the societal (and sometimes mental health) challenges that drive incels, and I'm having the courage to tell them that it needs to stop. I have no patience whatsoever for the men who won't take that last step. That's what this entire story was about.

Edit: Researcher Brené Brown has noted that the people who have the most compassion also have the best boundaries.

Dr. Brené Brown, a well-respected author, researcher, and professor often speaks about the importance of boundaries. She states that one of the most surprising discoveries she has found in her over 13 years of research is that “the most compassionate people are also the most boundaried.”

Also, where is your outpouring of sympathy for all the women that these guys kill, terrorize, dehumanize, and dream of raping? I have yet to see any story asking for empathy for incels that even mentions that in passing. It’s like those women don’t count — only the poor, sad, lonely terrorist does. And that’s where my anger comes from. That sort of himpathy is endemic in our culture and it’s completely out of line.