As a poly person, I can understand being both very happy with your mate and wanting other connections as well. But I'm handling that with openness and honesty. Frankly, I think some people just like to cheat. I was involved with a guy for a while who was in an open marriage, and then come to find out his wife knew nothing about me, even though he and I talked every day. He just liked having something going on that he was hiding from her. That was the end of it for me. `