As noted, however, this isn't necessarily a problem for older women. Any woman who has been with the same male partner for more than about 1.5 years will likely have a decrease in interest due to boredom (for lack of a better term) and the desexualization that comes with treating her too much like a wife and not enough like a lover. Read more about that here:
And as I described with Tris, she found her inner sex goddess again at age 66 when the relationship dynamics changed between her and her husband. She didn't want to put up with his "virility" either until she realized that there was a whole bunch of emotional disconnect going on between them that was the actual problem.
I've been with my husband for over 35 years and our sex life is just great. Throwing over you wife of many years to find a newer, younger, model doesn't sound like great advice to me when you could have actually worked on the roots of what was causing the lack of interest instead. If she was interested in sex with the guy she was having the emotional affair with (and the fact that she was having such an affair), I think that says a lot right there about how your sex problems were actually the sort that I described in the essay.
