As the mother of an autistic young adult son, I call bullshit. You can and have learned all sorts of skills to better fit into society. If you hadn't, you probably wouldn't have a job. Besides that, millions of autistic adults are married or have partners. Not all of them, to be sure, but millions - some of them with other autistic people. That doesn't mean it isn't harder, or that you can necessarily "pass" as neurotypical but that isn't the question at hand. The question is whether or not learning new things and improving your social skills is betraying who you actually are rather than simply polishing yourself up. You said it was betraying your authenticity and I say that's complete and utter bunk - and you haven't presented anything that remotely indicates I'm wrong.

The metric isn't whether or not you can turn yourself into George Clooney, the metric isn't whether or not learning new skills is often challenging - the metric is whether or not it's possible to polish up who you authentically are, and anybody who is holding down a job has done that to at least some extent even if you can't pass as NT. Even my son, who is non-verbal and doesn't work or have a girlfriend has absolutely learned all sorts of skills and appropriate ways to behave to better fit into the world. That doesn't mean he is any less of who he truly is - which was your premise. You trying to now move the ball because you've been shown to be wrong isn't going to fly.