"At least I'm trying to emphasise, understand and present solutions that benefit everyone..." Is that honestly what you think you are doing? Presenting solutions that benefit everyone? Because routinely claiming that this is all women's fault for being superficial and stupid isn't exactly benefiting anyone but you. Most women like self-confident guys who make them feel special in some way. By your own accounting (and continued reiteration), you think confidence equates with being an asshole, but blaming women for not being attracted to you when you lack the single most important thing they find desirable is really a you-problem, not a them-problem.
A certain percentage of those self-confident guys become less nice over time, once they've gotten the woman to fall for them. This phenomenon has a name (which I can't think of at the moment) but it's not because healthy women were initially attracted to toxic men. That's manosphere bullshit that you need to stop saying if you actually want to keep considering yourself to be "a good guy" - because it's an asshole thing to claim. There is such a thing as trauma bonding and differential reinforcement that keep some women staying in relationships with guys who turned out to be jerks, but they sure weren’t attracted to that behavior at the outset.
You absolutely do not know who the vast majority of women who didn't connect with you ended up with instead and in the face of that, claiming that they all made toxic choices is hateful and mean. It doesn't benefit anyone but you. Continuing to claim that is not helping anyone but you.
And who exactly said that some guys aren't worth a damn and they should give up on anyone caring about them? It wasn't me or any of the women I've seen commenting on your stories. Mona sure didn't say that. Stop poisoning your brain with Incel rhetoric and hate and you'll be a lot happier.
Edit: If you haven’t already read this story, I suggest that you do. If you have read it, read it again.
