Elle Beau ❇︎
3 min readMar 2, 2024

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Based on what exactly? Honestly, you've got to stop getting your information from social media because it's fucked. There are many cultures where rape functionally does not exist AT ALL because it is considered unmanly and severely punished in the rare instances that it ever takes place.

"Scully’s (1990) study of sexual violence views rape as learned behavior within a patriarchal culture. According to her findings rapists as compared to other felons are more likely to believe in a double standard regarding gender roles and they identify more strongly with the traditional male role."

Egypt is not the place with the lowest rape statistics. All Muslim countries have relatively high levels of rape as well as other types of violence - in part because they don't respect women.

"in Egypt; 90 percent of women in Egypt report experiencing some form of sexual harassment; and 3 in 10 ever-married women report experiencing spousal violence, including sexual violence."

Pretty much all males (with a few exceptions) in North America are absolutely complicit in maintaining rape culture, as are a lot of women. If you aren't part of the solution, then you are part of the problem. That's not dragging disabled people. There are things you and your friends can do that challenge rape culture without ever endangering yourself, like not laughing at sexist jokes, or watching dehumanizing porn.

Of course, all men aren't a monolith but the mainstream culture of masculinity in North America not only supports sexual violence, it kind of demands it as a show of "manliness". Until more men get together and shift that, they are allowing rape culture to continue unimpeded and that's nearly as bad as being an actual rapist.

[Ours] is a culture in which sexualized violence, sexual violence, and violence-by-sex are so common that they should be considered normal. Not normal in the sense of healthy or preferred, but an expression of the sexual norms of the culture, not violations of those norms. Rape is illegal, but the sexual ethic that underlies rape is woven into the fabric of the culture.” — Robert Jensen

"I didn't do it" is exactly what allows rape culture to continue at such astronomical levels.

85% of US women report being sexually harassed before the age of 17, many of them as young as 9 or 10.

79% of Canadian women report being followed by a man or group of men.

63% of Canadian women report feeling distracted at school or at work due to harassment.

1 in 4 women will be raped, nearly all of them have been sexually harassed, beginning in childhood. That's not a "bad apples" issue, that's a rape culture issue. Comments like the one I'm responding to are also a part of the problem. You NOT doing that - passing along faulty information and acting like nothing can be done - that's something that you absolutely can do to become a part of the solution and not a part of the problem.

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Elle Beau ❇︎
Elle Beau ❇︎

Written by Elle Beau ❇︎

I'm a bitch, I'm a lover, I'm a child, I'm a mother, I'm a sinner, I'm a saint. I do not feel ashamed. I'm your hell, I'm your dream, I'm nothing in between.

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