Because it's not my job to fix other people's lives for them when they haven't asked me to do so. I'm trying to balance that out with my conern for her. It's not only not my job, it's incredibly disempowering to someone to act like you know what's best for them when they've never asked for your opinion. I've found that often what someone wants is a safe place to speak and be heard, without being judged, and I've tried to give that to her. Until she asks me for more input or until I feel like she's in real danger, I am giving her the courtesy of trusting her to make her own adult decisions.