Being "desired" by random strangers is something that nearly every woman deals with from the age of 10 onward. That isn't sexy - it's predatory, objectifying, and often traumatizing. Having random strangers constantly bothering you trying to access your body feels like passing one of those kiosks in the mall with an aggressive salesperson who won't let you just walk by and do your shopping. I have to admit, I'm a bit dismayed that so many men still don't comprehend this dynamic.

Being desired within a relationship that you want is an entirely different thing. It's one of the reasons that approaching strange women on the street is usually such a bad idea. This can work in a bar or club where it's understood that people are there potentially to meet - but most women want to be desired for all of who they are - not just what they look like, and if the ONLY thing you know about her is what she looks like, then you can only be desiring that. Again, works in some contexts, but not usually (with some exceptions) in an everyday "I'm just trying to get through my day" context.