Besides the fact that it makes no sense from an evolutionary perspective for women to want "bad boys", so healthy women don't want that. The ones who do are overwhelmingly trying to come to terms with past dysfunctional love (from a father or earlier relationship). People often attract the same kinds of dynamics to themselves in order to give themselves an opportunity to heal them.

And yes, most of the things that men are mad about are the fault of patriarchy, not women.