But nearly all of women's safety and equality problems are in fact caused by men and by how masculinity is constructed in this culture. Saying that we aren't allowed to point that out is just silly.

Men aren't inherently anything different than women are, but they are socialized to be aggressive, dominant, and to control women. This leads to a lot of problems - both for men themselves and for everyone else.

85% of women start getting sexually harassed in childhood, often as young as 9 or 10.

1 in 3 women will be raped, most often by someone they already know.

Close to 40% of women who are murdered are killed by current or former domestic partners (vs. 6% of men, and at least some of those are in self-defense)

And that's before we even talk about other aspects of equality or safety

The American Psychological Association issued new guidelines a while back for assisting men and boys.

"Thirteen years in the making, they draw on more than 40 years of research showing that traditional masculinity is psychologically harmful and that socializing boys to suppress their emotions causes damage that echoes both inwardly and outwardly.

The main thrust of the subsequent research is that traditional masculinity—marked by stoicism, competitiveness, dominance and aggression—is, on the whole, harmful. Men socialized in this way are less likely to engage in healthy behaviors."

If you won't take women's concerns seriously, try to shut them up because they make you uncomfortable, and have spent no time trying to understand what they are upset about, then women might as well be your enemies.

Women's problems are mostly with how men in a patriarchy treat women. If you can't accept that, then you're part of the problem. If instead, you'd like to be a part of the solution by joining with other men to shift the culture, we’d welcome that. Women have been asking men to make these shifts for 50+ years and mostly all we get for it is attacked. So, you guys who claim to actually care about women and about society as a whole need to be the ones to band together and start creating a more healthy culture - for the benefit of us all.