But society is an entity that has power over you, and it's foolish to believe otherwise. Of course, the collective actions of individuals can change the properties of "society" but as noted, the women of 1900 who just wanted to vote (and didn't even get that for another 20 years) could not shift society simply by willing it - even though there were a substantial number of them.

Society has immense power over you in that it is deeply embedded in your subconscious and you mostly aren't even aware of all the ways that it influences you and directs your thoughts and actions. Cognitive science says that only about 2% of what we think of as thought is conscious. The rest is your subconscious mind driving you. And what is in your subconscious mind comes from your childhood experiences of society, as well as current media, cognitive biases and other things, but to underestimate how much we are all at the mercy of "society" is just fooling yourself. And I'm a highly individualist person who is saying that.