But there are behaviors that are demanded of us in order to fit into the patriarchy boxes of what it means to be a man or a woman. Even men are readily able to identify what those are, so you pretending they don't exist or it's some unfair nastiness on the part of women is specious and a misdirection because they hurt your feelings. I can tell how you feel by the way that you behave. It's not that difficult.

https://medium.com/inside-of-elle-beau/men-describe-what-it-takes-to-be-a-real-man-c694595b4366

"Paul Kivel conceptualized the “Act Like a Man Box” in the early 1980’s, by asking high school boys what the rules were for being a man. It turned out the rules were pretty straightforward. They included:

• Hide all emotions

• Treat women as less, have control over women

• Be tough, never admit self doubt, fear

• Police and bully other boys who don’t conform."

You won't even admit what the problems are, so the solutions that I offer are completely lost on you. That's the actual issue. And I'm done talking about this with you.