But this is not remotely like walking up to someone and saying that out of the blue. It's in the context of discussions about what is going on in society. If I were having a discussion with an older person about how our culture does a terrible job of interfacing with death, it would be completely appropriate to mention that they were going to die soon. In fact, I had discussions like that with my mother near the end of her life that were incredibly rich and empowering. This other types of conversations could be as well if more men would grow the fuck up.

You've inadvertently hit the nail on the head. It's men's insecurities that are to blame, and I'm sorry, but I'm not responsible for that. If someone is fragile, (which way too many men are) then they need to learn how to be an actual adult man because their fragility is a huge part of the larger problematic societal dynamic.

I've worked hard to transcend a lot of my social and cultural indoctrination. I know a lot of women who have done the same. I see almost no men who are doing that, so no, I don't have a lot of sympathy for them lashing out, and taking their stuff out on me (or other women). Just like at some point we can no longer blame our parents for how we were raised and what that did to us, at some point adults have to take responsibility for what society has done to them as well.

If I told you I was raised to be racist, and I didn't have to work on that and learn how to put that behind me, it's doubtful you would just give me a pass on that. Right?