Confidence is always attractive - to both men and women. This has nothing at all to do with acting like "an Alpha male" by the metrics of how that term is currently used in popular parlance, however. Real confidence comes from understanding and owning who you are. I hear all the time from women who are shocked and disgusted to go out with a man who spends the entire time telling her about what an important, smart, rich, whatever guy that he is. He's giving her a sales pitch about how confident he is rather than being actually confident enough to get to know her as a person. Big mistake!
Women do value novelty but they also value safety and companionship and pretending that one grossly overrides the other is to deny what the statistics actually say about marriage and long term dating in our culture.
Online dating is ubiquitous but also not the only way that people meet and date. Meeting through friends and shared activities (including work) are still huge segments of the current dating equation.
And please don't bring polyamory into this, because that is a lifestyle that is all about abundance. Poly women overwhelmingly are dating poly men, so just stop with the myth that this is somehow contributing to a lack of dates for men in general.
It's true that a lot of women are kind of fed up with men/dating at this juncture but that's not what is driving male suicide. Masculine norms that demand that men never show any difficult emotions other than anger, never admit they need help or keep them from getting mental health assistance, that they always be in control - these are the things that drive male suicide.
Here are some stories that I've already researched and written on these topics.
