Dating apps work well for some people and badly for almost everyone else, including a lot of women. It's mostly a huge cess pit. Of course it impacts "the real world" but the dynamics there are artificial and specific to those sites. It doesn't speak to what's happening "in the wild" or how human mating has taken place for millions of years. Lamenting that the skewed supply and demand dynamic doesn't work in your favor is like complaining about the rain. It's both predictable and inevitable, but unlike the weather, you do have other choices for meeting people. Demanding that it should work for you is just entitled and lame. Get off your computer and go develop some interpersonal skills.
And Instagram is not a dating app even if some people try to use it that way. Actual dating apps are nearly all men competing for a very few women, and even then, mostly all of them doing it really badly.
"This isn’t to say there haven’t always been more risks for women when it comes to dating – of course there have. But dating apps have led to the normalization of abuses which would have been considered appalling in other, supposedly less progressive eras. Unsolicited dick pics, harassing messages, and the non-consensual sharing of nudes are now routine features of dating for women across demographics. What some would chalk up to “the new dating culture” are actually crimes that women have been told to laugh off lest they look like they’re just not cool girls."
"In fact, it’s so bad out there that many women are choosing to sit out the game of dating altogether. On both TikTok and Instagram, “Why I Quit Dating” videos pop up with increasing frequency, often garnering hundreds of thousands of views and likes, the comments filled with women saying they’ve given it up too, for six months, a year, forever."
