Did you miss the part where I talked about the orgasm gap and male entitlement? Apparently.

“I’m not saying that lovers should intentionally leave each other hanging. I also think it’s really important for men who sleep with women to understand that there is an orgasm gap and try not to contribute to it further.”

But even so, I don't owe a man an orgasm and he doesn't owe me one. That doesn't mean that good lovers don't take each other's pleasure seriously. Which is what I said. I didn't say that it's no big deal. Take a deep breath and go back and reread.