Erika Lust has some pretty good stuff that is more realistic, more just what it’s like to meet someone you are hot for and have sex, but it’s a pay subscription and so it’s not what is getting widely viewed by the average teen-ager. The orgasm gap is a problem and 30 years of the internet hasn’t made it any better and may have made it worse.
“What is startling and surprising to me is that both men and women buy into the same sort of cultural model,” he (Kim Wallen, professor of behavioral neuroendocrinology at Emory University) said. “If he is a good lover, he can bring me to orgasm with his penis alone. And a man buys into that and doesn’t offer any kind of stimulation. And because he’s not any good, she won’t say anything because it’s emasculating.”
