Even incels have a choice. Elliot Rodger never once approached a woman. He expected hot sorority girls to fall in his lap and when they didn't, he killed them. Every single man (person) has the ability to learn to dress better, to learn better social skills, to cultivate confidence. "Oh the poor guys who have no choice" is entitled misogyny. Please just stop because it's fucking ugly and disrespectful to all the people who have worked hard to improve themselves and who aren't just sitting around pittying themselves.

It’s also a mistake to accede too readily to an incel’s self-reports about their lowly status in comparison with other men. With respect to male beauty standards, for example, a recent article on incels in New York magazine revealed photographs of perfectly ordinary-looking young men — some of them even handsome. They nonetheless hankered for different jaw lines, some going so far as to invest in exorbitantly expensive plastic surgeries, such as cheek implants and facial reshaping, to make them (in their own view) look more masculine.

Manne, Kate. Entitled (p. 19). Crown. Kindle Edition.