Exactly! I do have some good experiences with that but much of the time when some guy who clearly knows nothing about the topic at hand is telling me how wrong I am, or is behaving belligerently towards me and other women, there's crickets.

If so called "good men" don't want to be lumped in with guys who are either perpetrators or apologists, they need to stop turning a blind eye to the problems in this culture caused by masculine norms as well as individual bad behavior - because in many ways that's nearly just as bad. It's what allows the dysfunction to go on unabated.