Glad to hear that you are doing so much, but men as a demographic need to do more to confront the harmful masculine norms that our culture has embraced for too long -ones that harm men just as much as anyone else, albeit in slightly different ways.
When are women going to ratify the ERA? WTF? Women only hold 29% of Congress and even less than that in most state houses. And that's a big uptick from how many political slots they've had until very recently. Female candidates are held to double standards of likability and "good motherhood" that men do not encounter. They face all sorts of institutional and entrenched bias and discrimination. Sure, white women helped put Trump in power the first time and they may well do that again, but that's because in a patriarchal dominance hierarchy, being power adjacent is almost as good as being in power. Women have played their part in upholding patriarchy and fascism and there is room to do better, but it's delusional to act like they are the main issue here.
Women surgeons get groped and sexually harassed WHILE assisting in surgeries - and everyone knows it and nobody does anything about it. Don't pretend like the problems in our culture stem primarily from women's failures. 50 years ago women were second class citizens by law. Imagining that this has evaporated and gone out of the collective consciousness just because it’s no longer legal is more delusion and failure to interface with facts and reality.
Edit: Women have to routinely sue for their legal rights — which means they don’t actually count for a lot. When my husband was head of HR at his company he commissioned a gender equity study that (no surprise) found that women were often being paid less for the same work. My friend was recently given a settlement for the same thing — women are still today often paid less for the same work and until someone consciencious looks into it, it continues unimpeded. Oh well… That’s just the way of the world. Who cares? Certainly not most men…
Trying to police women’s dress, demeanor, or general attitude as a way to control men’s behavior is pointless and misogynistic. Men have to change their destructive metrics of what it means to be “a real man” or we’ll all going to continue to suffer for it.
