Go to a baseball game or the mall - that's a better "sample size" than your self-selected men's group. What you will see there is all shapes, sizes, and economic classes of people paired up at all different age groups. And in addition, actual researchers from noted universities also have better methodology and a less intrinsically biased pool of subjects than you have in your group.

Of course women want someone who dresses decently, in clothes that work with his body type, who takes basic good care of himself and his health, who has paid for a haircut that flatters him, etc. That's kind of a given. But that can look any number of ways. If you're telling men something different than that, you are lying to them for you own purposes.