Good heavens, this doesn't make a lot of sense to me. I don't want a man to lead. In fact, I'm a much better leader and like most women, I am the one holding up the center tent pole of my family. I do want a partner. I do want someone who can communicate well and do his part. I want love and friendship and good sex, and I have all of those things with a strong, intelligent, and caring man. But he's sure as hell not providing any sort of leadership and I wouldn't expect or want him to.

From an evolutionary sense, women didn't actually need men except to impregnate them. Gatherers provided and still do provide the vast bulk of the calories in a hunter-gatherer tribe. Meat is an extra - a valuable extra to be sure - but then again, lots of Paleolithic women were hunters as well. Kin and as kin help to care for children. Lots of that was done by men, but it doesn't have to be.

Yes, go be a man of your word and be the example that you want to see, but also don't imagine that you have some irreplaceable role or value. We all have what we actually bring to the table. Men need to realize that their value comes from their heart and their soul, not from being "a man" in some kind of artificial patriarchal sense.

And if you don't know how to co-create and co-partner rather than relying on somebody to be the leader, you need to get into therapy. Your need for hierarchy betrays your insecurity and your weakness, and it's not a good look.