Have you ever been in a polyamorous relationship? Why are giving armchair advice about it then? Because how it seems to you from the outside, through the lens of a monogamy paradigm, is so off base as to be absurd.

My husband and I opened up our monogamous marriage after 20 years because we were super happy with each other and wanted to see "what else." It wasn't just about sex (as the author clearly noted — that’s a misguided assumption). It was and is about relating to each other in a different way, and that's something that has made us both very happy.

Honestly, the hubris of telling other people how to live when you don't actually even know the first thing about it...

Monogamous People Can’t Evaluate Consensual Non-monogamy Through The Lens of What They Know