Have you ever been outside before? Because if you just look around at who is coupled up out on the street, at a football match, or your neighborhood pub, 95% of the men do not look or sound like James Bond. The majority of them are short, paunchy, balding, not rich, didn't go to Oxford, etc., etc. Somehow they managed to find partners anyhow.
And no, most men are not doing what they can to help women live in a safer and more equal world. Not even 50%. Maybe 3% are. Most men are turning a blind eye to what women face on a daily basis and then complaining about feminism. Most women haven't had one or a few bad experiences. Most women have been sexually harassed and assaulted regularly since they were about 10 years old. And mostly other men have just let that happen. You're not listening if you aren't already aware of that. If you think that women are overreacting or being somehow unfair to men, you really, really aren't listening or learning the statistics and the realities for yourself - which is what you ought to be doing, in truth.
50% of young men in the UK think that "feminism has gone too far." Meanwhile, in actuality, a huge number of women MPs did not seek re-election due to the abuse and threats they received on a constant basis - from men.
"Despite the perceptions of young men surveyed, critics would argue that feminism has not gone far enough in the UK. The UK now ranks 21st on the World Economic Forum’s Gender Equality Index. Women in the country remain underrepresented in politics, and the gender pay gap is not narrowing."
https://www.globalcitizen.org/en/content/half-of-young-men-oppose-feminism-uk/
I like you Gareth, but you often live in a world inside your mind that has little intersection with reality. I suspect that you've spent too much time on Manosphere type sites and getting away from that sort of BS can only do you good, because it's both delusional and disempowering.
Dating is hard - for everyone. Men perpetrate 90% of all violence - a lot of it against other men, but for sure against women. In the US, 50% of murdered women are killed by former or current male intimate partners. About 4% is true of men, and at least some of those are self-defense related. I'm pretty sure the stats are comparable in the UK.
Mainstream masculine norms that come out of patriarchal scripts are responsible for most of the dysfunction in the world. That doesn't mean men are subhuman or evil - it means that the way they've been socialized is damaging - to themselves and to everyone else. Most men are not trying to grapple with that. Most men are staunchly defending patriarchy and entitlement to unearned privilege. Most men are spending all of their time deflecting and blaming women and feminism for the problems that patriarchy causes.
That doesn't mean that women are perfect or blameless, but fucking hell, most of what you've said here is sheer victim-blaming, or complete cluelessness. I'm sorry, but I have zero patience for this kind of stupid narrative. "I didn't do anything" is a HUGE part of the problem. It's what allows the harmful culture to continue unimpeded.
Pew Research says that about 61% of single men are looking for dates and relationships and only about 38% of single women are. This is more concentrated the older the respondents are. I think that speaks volumes right there. In large part, relationships are not a good thing for a lot of women, and many women have given up on them, or have created ones where they at least have their own place and a certain amount of autonomy. More men ought to take those statistics to heart and think about what they indicate about heterosexual pairings because in my mind, that indicates a lot of room for improvement.
