Having spent a fair amount of time in swinger's clubs and other types of clothing optional spaces, I can say with conviction that there's a huge difference between finding someone attractive, and feeling "in turmoil" or like you have to actively manage your reactions to that. People who have grown up in cultures where female bodies are not routinely objectified and commodified don't have the same struggles. They look at human bodies as just that - and although some are naturally more sexually attractive than others - which is likely quite individualized as to preferences, they don't hold the same sort of power that you (and many other American men) have reported. People who live in Spain or France, where women are covered up during the day don't lose their minds when they go to the beach and they are topless. It's only because you've been taught to salivate over those parts that it puts you in "turmoil" to have them on display in your sight.

European men are no less inherently sexual than you, they've just grown up in a culture that is less puritanical about sex and so bodies are less taboo. As Dr. Manning notes, you've been taught to fetishize women's bodies in a way that does not take place in many other cultures. That's a very different thing from generalized male heterosexuality and normal attraction.