Here's something I wrote trying to get things more on track before I finally gave up. Most people haven't the faintest idea of what is erotic because they've been bombarded by porn and nothing else. Porn can (rarely) be sexy, but it isn't the same, and it's a shame that many younger people don't seem to know the difference.

https://medium.com/sensual-enchantment/how-not-to-write-a-sex-positive-erotic-story-24637f328644