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Honestly, Your Penis Is The Least Important Thing About You
Not the most important, as some men seem to believe
Back when I used to be on poly dating sites, I would avoid any profile picture that had a cock in it. From my point of view, if you think that’s the number one most compelling thing about you, then you probably don’t know a lot about women, which means that you are likely to be a subpar lover and companion, and not what I am interested in.
Don’t get me wrong — a dick is a good thing to have and I don’t think there is anything that comes close to the real thing — but beyond the fact that you have one and it works in the usual way, it has little bearing on how you stack up as an attractive sex partner. At least for me, but I think many other people would agree. I don’t know how it is for other people who have sex with penis owners, but I’ll bet it’s largely the same as it is for most women. It isn’t your equipment that makes you a good lover or an attractive man and it’s unfortunate that so many guys seem to be under this misapprehension.
I’d blame porn, but I think this cult of the cock started long before that, with phrases that equate a man’s member with his masculinity. “He’s a big swinging dick,” for example. Meanwhile, that’s something most women I know don’t actually care that much about. Except for the…
