Humans are hardwired to crave connection, understanding, and love. I sincerely hope that when it's the right time, you will meet someone you can have that sort of relationship with.
That being said, continuing to hold the belief that women dislike men for no real reason potentially stands in the way of that, because it's treating women's actual lived experiences as unimportant and their reaction to them as irrational. Go back and reread some of our earlier discussions about this, and reread the story about the woman at the gym that I linked you that you said you'd already read - because that dynamic happens everywhere and in all sorts of contexts. Even girls your age have plenty of experience with being either bullied, or marginalized, or assaulted by a man and other men not standing up for her or helping her - and then quite often telling her she is somehow the problem or that she brought it on herself. Would you like to live in a world where the shoe was on the other foot and that's how you were treated from childhood on? How would you feel if that were the case?
And, as already noted, the men who do that aren't aliens from another planet. They are acting out mainstream masculine norms that are well accepted in society. If you're not doing those things, if you are challenging your friends and standing up for girls and women as you are able to, then they aren't talking about you - and you shouldn't take it personally. Just keep being the best person and the best man you can be, and girls and women will notice that you aren't a part of the masculine culture that seeks to abuse and marginalize them. But until they see that from you over and over again, they're going to assume you are bought into the same harmful aspects of masculine socialization that hurt them. And why wouldn't they - because it's pervasive and they've already been negatively affected by it over and over again since young childhood.
It's like coming across a snake in the garden. Some snakes are harmless and even beneficial, but because they can be dangerous and even deadly, most people's initial reaction is to run the other way, or try to eradicate the snake. Unless you're a herpetologist, you'd have to take the time to learn the markings and other telltale sings of a "good snake" and most people find it easier to assume they don't want to be around any snakes because so many snakes really are problematic.
Wishing you all the best.
