I agree and although some people are turned on by the idea that they are doing something transgressive, it's usually women breaking out of old sexual mores who feel this way. That's why I don't like words like slut, because they imply that women liking sex are shameful and deserve to be looked down on. And some women think that's very sexy to be called something like "my little slut" in the bedroom. OK, you do you, but just realize that it is internalized patriarchy.