I agree and I agree that she has a perspective that not all white women have and also every right to tell her husband's story. She does not have to create her self expression to fit your metrics. And if it's a good thing, why don't you leave it at that and stop complaining?

If I had a dollar for every white man who tried to tell me or some other woman what was an acceptable way for us to express ourselves about our own personal experiences, I'd be a very rich lady. 🙄

The action is to notice - things that mostly take place subconsciously and not out of malice, but that are nonetheless harmful. More white men ought to be doing that work themselves.