I agree with everything you've said, but you're preaching to the choir, as we say here - meaning I'm not the person you need to be talking to about this since I've made it fairly clear in just about everything I write that I'm advocating for a different kind of society, and that this dominance hierarchy (and not men) is the issue.

Maybe it didn't come through in that quote from Manne, but she too is talking about a social system and the way that it functions in destructive and harmful ways. I get that you're passionate about this - I am too - very obviously so, which is why trying to "educate" me about it can't help but come off as condescending and paternalistic. We create a better world for all by talking about the ways that the social system we have is a problem, something I do every article. I recommend that you take your important ideas and write your own story.