I agree with you in large part, but we cannot hide what we are dealing with because it's hard to hear - because it's also incredibly difficult to experience. If this causes shame, perhaps it should because it's unbelievably horrendous that little girls start getting sexually harassed at 8 or 9 years old and that a large percentage of men have admitted to researchers that they would rape someone if they thought they could get away with it, etc., etc., etc.

We absolutely need to revamp the culture, starting with how masculinity is constructed and envisioned in this society to be more supportive of allowing men to be full human beings who are given support and care - and men need to lead the way, because they aren't going to change it because women say so. We've been trying that for the past 50+ years. Women need to support that but asking them to stifle their pain and anger is not the answer. For one thing, then men will say, "Everything's OK, there is nothing for us to do."

I think what we really need to do is give men a path forward because I think a lot of them don't know what to do or how to make things better. If more men had that, and took this on as a function of being a leader we could transform the culture - for the betterment of us all.