I appreciate hearing from you but see absolutely no value in practices that demonstrably go against what we know it takes for children (or humans in general) to thrive. "Traditional" patriarchal norms for men drive depression, substance abuse and suicide - as well as poor relationship skills that lead to bad marriages and terrible relationships with children. Most men who subscribe to that way of thinking have no real friends. They are lonely, depressed, and hate everyone around them. What possible benefit is there in that?
Until about 5k years ago, it never occurred to anybody to think and act this way. It's an aberration in human cultures. Obviously, there's ample room for individuality and personal choice, but bullying men into this shit is just toxic. There is no legitimate defense of it. It's antithetical to human nature and thriving. We absolutely do not need to "allow for it" in order to have some kind of balance.
