I appreciate hearing your input and the positive aspects of what you are describing, but do want to point out that commenting on a physical aspect of somebody is not objectifying. When you are noticing and complimenting a physical feature of a whole person, particularly in a setting where that is expected or welcome, it's a totally different thing than treating someone (who you don't even know and who hasn't asked for your input) as if they are not a person, but instead are only a nice ass (or what have you) - that they are an object.

There may be aspects of consensual objectification that take place in D/s dynamics, but it's still consensual. This makes it totally different than the treatment that most women start experiencing from boys and men at the age of 10 or 11 as if they were something to be consumed by them - and that this is their only purpose in life, to be less than a human person.

Thanks for the writing prompt. I think I need to write a longer piece about this.

On the lighter side, those parties sound fun and I totally get the relaxing properties of being the sub. I think a lot of men assume that so many women like being subs because that is "natural" for women or whatever, but I think it's the opposite. I think women spend so much time trying to navigate a stressful and complicated world and having to be strong in the face of a lot of shit that it's just so relaxing to have a break from that for a while. At least that has been my experience.