I appreciate that this is "common knowledge" but it's also completely and totally off-base. Hypergamy only arose with patriarchy about 6k years ago - when women went from being a valuable part of what was essentially a communal living situation (as foragers, women bring in most of the daily calories, and have extensive networks of alloparents who help to raise kids) - to depending on only one man to care for and provision them.
Ironically, what patriarchy became was a social system where many women did have to have sex with losers, because otherwise they would have starved. Women had to find someone to feed and house them, and if the best they could get was an anti-social loser, that's who they were stuck with. We're seeing the vestiges of this now that so many women can actually provide for themselves - they don't want to or have to be with guys who don't treat them well, or otherwise don't meet their standards - because they no longer are at the mercy of patriarchal restrictions. Patriarchy is the root cause of hypergamy and guys who both want a "traditional" woman but also rail against hypergamy ought to wake up to the fact that they are working at cross purposes to themselves because in order to have women in traditional roles, one is also supporting a system where hypergamy is routine and where some women will have to partner with less desirable men out of necessity.
There's a lot of other good stuff here, but this first part is completely backwards and not historically supported. I say this not to call you out, but to challenge a common narrative that isn't very scientific.
https://www.vice.com/en/article/monogamy-may-be-even-more-difficult-for-women-than-it-is-for-men/
"When Darwin observed that females of many species were naturally coy and choosy and reticent, sexually speaking, and males were naturally competitive and randy, he set us on a course by distorting the lens through which we view behavior. What we know today thanks to mostly female primatologists, anthropologists, and sex researchers is that when the context is right, female sexuality is assertive, adventurous, and what we call “promiscuous.”
The great anthropologist and comparativist Sarah Hrdy tells us that, across species, including among humans, the best mother for many eons was the one who was, under particular and far-from-rare ecological circumstances, promiscuous.
By being so, she could hedge against male infertility, up her odds of a healthy pregnancy and robust offspring, and create a wider network of support by lining up two or three males who figured the offspring might be theirs.
In contemporary partible paternity cultures like the Bari in South America, people believe that a baby is created by the sperm of several men, and women who are monogamous may be considered stingy and bad mothers. And among the Himba of Namibia, Brooke Scelza tells us that female infidelity benefits women and their offspring. Ditto for the Pimbwe of Tanzania. When we look at female sexual behavior cross-culturally and among non-human primates, we have to question a lot of our comfortable and comforting assumptions about who and how women are."
“Small bands of hunter/gatherers with strong kinship bonds would have cared for all children born into that group, regardless of paternity, which would have been unknowable without the sequestering and control of women. Because all food acquisition would have been done in groups and shared communally, there is no biological incentive to mating with the best provider. It was only with patriarchy that the role of a provider becomes important. Women no longer had any autonomy and had only one mate upon whom they were entirely dependent. It is only within this context that a good provider begins to truly matter.
If you are prohibited from providing for yourself and your children, and must rely on only one man to do that, then it is in your best interests to find a man who can do that well. Whereas, if you had been an adept gatherer, you might not have even needed a hunter at all. Neil Gaiman’s poem about the first scientists, The Mushroom Hunters, speaks to this.”
