I appreciate your comment but I don’t think it’s actually in line with the facts. About 20% of women make more than their partners and another 30% say they make the same, so this outdated notion that women won’t partner with a man unless he earns more than she does isn’t a biological imperative — it’s a function of patriarchy — and it’s one that is waning. When women were stripped of all ability to help feed their families and relegated to the inside of the home just a few thousand years ago, they had to rely on one man (rather than the entire community and themselves) to provide. In this context obtaining the best provider you can makes sense, but as women again gained the ability to provide for themselves in recent years, it once again becomes less important.
The sex thing also isn’t true. Women in long-term relationships often aren’t interested in sex anymore because they are bored with the sex they are getting and it kills their libido. I know a lot of middle-aged and older women, myself included, who are very interested in sex — and this is also what the data supports.
“Some of this research on the true nature of female sexuality has focused on women who have sex outside of already established relationships, such as extra-marital affairs. Despite a strong negative view of infidelity culture-wide, female infidelity rates in the US are on par with those of men. Of the women who were studied, primarily they were looking to keep their existing emotional attachment, but also looking for better sexual fulfillment.
When women seem to lose interest in sex a few years into an established relationship, it’s most often because they are bored with the same old routine sex. “Overfamiliarisation with a partner and desexualisation kills women’s libido. We used to think it’s only men who became sexually bored after marriage; turns out that’s not true. It’s when women get married that it’s detrimental to their libido.”
We live in a world that is already vastly over-populated. I have no problem with decreasing birth rates. We’re just going to have to come up with a different economic model that doesn’t rely on ever increasing numbers to function.
