I completely agree, but it would good if you did a bit more following your own advice and slowed down on so often reflexively discounting the things that women say about their experiences in this culture as the inventions of feminism (what you like to term "healthy skepticism"). Not every woman who talks about what it's like to be female in this culture is a feminist, and in addition, using that term as some sort of dismissive pejorative is antithetical to your stated desire for better listening to each other.