I don't agree with you that feminism is about victimization (in the pejorative sense of that word). Patriarchy has objectively harmed women and I think that's worth talking about; although it's also harmed men as well. Mainstream feminism recognizes this although it's not the main focus of their message and it also tends to get shouted down by the men who would rather defend the system than acknowledge that it's harmful to us all - which in my experience is a lot of them. It's a fucking weird dynamic that so many men defend this system, even as it's kicking them in the balls. 🤷‍♀️ We can all benefit from being more self-reflective and self-responsible.

And, I do largely agree with the rest of what you've said. A guy called me a dick a while back and it really tickled me. I thought it was great and proof that I was speaking my truth and not playing "nice" games, which I did for too much of my early life. And that being said, there are real life consequences to not playing the "nice" game. Likeability is a critical element of electibility for women in a way that it just isn't for men, so it can be a bit of a tightrope walk. But it's good to keep challenging that.