I don't disagree with that which is why I said over and over again that all humans deserve basic empathy. And, I'll reiterate this point for you from one of the quotes in the OP:

"But when someone is in pain precisely because he has an overblown sense of entitlement to the soothing ministrations of others, which have not been forthcoming, stepping in to assuage his pain becomes an ethically fraught enterprise. Even expressing our sympathies runs the risk of feeding into his false, dangerous sense that other people - especially girls and women - exist to pander to the incel's needs and to gratify his ego."